2 self-sabotage attitudes you need to get rid of this year

With all the year-end retrospectives and planning goals for the new year, sometimes we end up overthinking and practicing self-sabotage in the face of destructive thoughts. However, the year is just beginning, and you have time to change those thoughts for the better. Below, we suggest how to engage in healthier behaviors for yourself, showing you how to avoid self sabotage.

Self-sabotage practices

To improve your relationship with yourself and past issues, we suggest two ways to leave self-sabotaging patterns in the past.

How not to self-sabotage?

1. Don't sabotage your happiness: when we have self-sabotage patterns, we always end up sabotaging those happy moments. This happens mainly when we want something material, because we think it will make us happier, but then we start to think that we don't deserve it.

We even end up sabotaging ourselves in order to fill ourselves with unnecessary material goods. You see a cell phone, even if you have one in good condition, functional and modern, but you feel obliged to buy the newest model just for looks, without the slightest need.

A portion of this stems from the tendency to overvalue the things we have more limited access to and devalue what we can easily have.

According to a study published in Psychological Sciences and Cognitive, it is necessary to have a certain amount of money to live a happy and stable life. As this gives access to education, health care and a good standard of living. But it's good to remember that happiness is not this constant pursuit of scarce goods. These goods will only bring you momentary happiness.

2. Stop wanting to please everyone: we go crazy in our heads always trying to live up to the expectations placed on us by others. We go beyond our own limits to satisfy the other person, even compromising our own needs and principles.

If you have this tendency to put yourself aside to ensure the well-being of others, we'll show you some tactics to end this destructive tendency once and for all:

• Make it clear to yourself that the expectations placed on you by the other person are not your responsibility. When the other person questions your ways with an air of disappointment, let them know that you don't have to let yourself be who you are to meet their expectations.
• Learn to say no when you don't want something or don't want to do something, don't go beyond your limits to please someone.
• Validate your annoyances, sometimes, when we expose what the other is doing that bothers us, we end up invalidating what we are feeling, because the other made us doubt it, using terms like "this is crazy in your head, I don't do that with you".